He's Just Not That Into You: Your Daily Wake-up Call
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By: Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo
Format: Paperback
From: Harper Element
Pub. Date: January 2006
From: Harper Element
Pub. Date: January 2006
Product Details:
Catalog: Book
Release Date: 2006-02-06
Media: Paperback
Number Of Pages: 288
Ean: 9780007229277
Isbn: 0007229275
Catalog: Book
Release Date: 2006-02-06
Media: Paperback
Number Of Pages: 288
Ean: 9780007229277
Isbn: 0007229275
ABOUT THE BOOK
EDITORIAL REVIEW
This title presents bite-size wisdom from the phenomenally bestselling relationships book that has changed the lives of millions of women around the world. This hilarious, playful, but honest explanation of male behaviour from the writers of "Sex and the City" is designed to stop women wasting their time chasing after men who aren't into them, and help them to move on and find men who really are. Upfront and forthright, the wisdom of the book can be summed up by: men don't want to tell women when they're not interested - and women don't want to hear it anyway. But don't worry; it happens to the most beautiful, funny, interesting and intelligent women and all it means is that it's time to say 'Next!'. It's not that he's too busy, just got out of a relationship or scared of intimacy, you just need to learn to read the signs - 'He's Just Not That Into You If He's Not Calling You,' or 'If He's Not Dating You,' 'If He Only Wants To See You When He's Drunk', 'If He's Having Sex With Someone Else,' not to mention 'If He's Married.'
USER REVIEWS
"And that is not meant in a positive way..! This book very much stays on the surface of relationships. It generalises that all men treat women badly until they find 'the one'. I for one value decency and wouldn't want to be with someone who I knew treated people badly. So he cheated on every other girlfriend but it's ok because I'm the one...I don't think so!
If you are not happy with any aspect of your boyfriends behaviour, then the answer is that he is simply 'not that into you'. This goes for everything and no matter at what stage you are into the relationship. Whether he cheats or simply forgets to call you, all is defined as equally bad behaviour, showing that he is 'not that into you' and the books solution is to dump him and find someone who shows you on a daily basis how much he loves you. Greg's definition of this is that he should be showering you with gifts and writing poetry and generally be perfect in every way.
Yes, it might be pretty obvious that he is not that keen if you had just started dating someone who wasn't calling or making much effort. But if you are already in a serious realtionship and it happens, there could be a whole number of reasons and the sensible thing would be to talk to him about it!
Neither women nor men are so perfect and this book scarcely touches on fundamental factors that make relationships work such as communication, the ability to compromose, compatibility, commitment etc. This book implies that it is up to him to put in all the effort. All the female seems to be required to do is to lavish the attention and read his signals to decide whether or not he is 'into you' and therefore whether you should continue with him or not.
Relationships take work from both sides. How our partner treats us and behaves in the relationship is significant and it is important that we are aware of this and don't make compromises on what is truly unacceptable to us but it is really unrealistic, as this book suggests, to expect our partner to behave perfectly all the time.
What is of value here, apart from the humour, is that we should set standards for ourselves and be aware of what is important to us and what we are willing to compromise on and not.
However, there are far more useful books written by relationship experts who know what they are talking about."
~ Written on 2006-03-06
If you are not happy with any aspect of your boyfriends behaviour, then the answer is that he is simply 'not that into you'. This goes for everything and no matter at what stage you are into the relationship. Whether he cheats or simply forgets to call you, all is defined as equally bad behaviour, showing that he is 'not that into you' and the books solution is to dump him and find someone who shows you on a daily basis how much he loves you. Greg's definition of this is that he should be showering you with gifts and writing poetry and generally be perfect in every way.
Yes, it might be pretty obvious that he is not that keen if you had just started dating someone who wasn't calling or making much effort. But if you are already in a serious realtionship and it happens, there could be a whole number of reasons and the sensible thing would be to talk to him about it!
Neither women nor men are so perfect and this book scarcely touches on fundamental factors that make relationships work such as communication, the ability to compromose, compatibility, commitment etc. This book implies that it is up to him to put in all the effort. All the female seems to be required to do is to lavish the attention and read his signals to decide whether or not he is 'into you' and therefore whether you should continue with him or not.
Relationships take work from both sides. How our partner treats us and behaves in the relationship is significant and it is important that we are aware of this and don't make compromises on what is truly unacceptable to us but it is really unrealistic, as this book suggests, to expect our partner to behave perfectly all the time.
What is of value here, apart from the humour, is that we should set standards for ourselves and be aware of what is important to us and what we are willing to compromise on and not.
However, there are far more useful books written by relationship experts who know what they are talking about."
~ Written on 2006-03-06