Not 'Just Friends': Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity

"If, like I was, you are searching for help in the aftermath of infidelity, PLEASE buy this book. It's the only one you'll need. (I wasted money on several others that I haven't even opened). It is comprehensive and has obviously been written by a very experienced individual with appropriate qualifications, which makes the advice easier to take. (Even better, it hasn't got "ADULTERY" or "INFIDELITY" in big letters across the cover, which I really appreciated when reading in public!)

My partner and I used it in different ways - I read it from front to back but he took more of a "dip in/dip out" approach. Both of us felt that it was like receiving free counselling / therapy with the added advantage of taking things at our own pace in our own home. We spent considerable time reading alone and gained clarity at a confusing time. It is articulately and logically presented and, as a result, you can quote the author, using the ideas as a springboard for discussions.

It also considers the feelings and motivations of each of the three people in the relationship "triangle". This helps you to gain greater understanding and to make sense of the suituation as a whole whilst focussing on how you can move forward at a steady pace.

There are some practical ideas and examples of survivors' stories for those who choose to part but this book has mainly been written for couples who stay together and rebuild a stronger relationship. Unfortunately, you don't know where you are going to end up when you embark on the journey, which is why a comprehensive book is necessary."
~ Written on 2007-07-27