Surviving an Affair

"This book was no help at all. So much so that it made things worse. If you want help read Surviving Infidelity by Rona B Subotnick."
~ Written on 2008-06-02

"My husband of 15 years told me of a 64 day relationship which concluded with the intention of leaving me and my 4 children. As he now realizes himself that it was all a 'big mistake' I am left with the task of accepting his mistake and moving on. I have read many self-help books on this subject and feel that although there is no obvious answer to this problem, the more view points one has the more chance one stands of coming to terms with what is probably one of the most sole destroying thing I will ever have to face. Therefore, I would strongly suggest this book to anybody who is trying to love again..........."
~ Written on 2002-11-29

"From the 18-page Personal History Questionnaire to the sample good-bye letter, Dr. Harley again demonstrates his expertise in the area of helping couples. This is a step-by-step guide about how to recover as a couple and by yourself. I'm happy to say that my wife and I are in love again...and not by chance."
~ Written on 1999-06-02

"This book never covers the importance of an individual's history. Are you predisposed to this? Did you cheat in previous relationships? Did you feel that you could always have everything? and what about the out-bursts? He says to refrain from angry out-burst, they are Love Busters. They are necessary! The betrayed spouse needs to get this stuff of his/her chest. His/her life has just been shattered into a million pieces I was very disappointed. Dr. Harley's job is to get people back together, no matter what. I would not recommend this to anyone!"
~ Written on 1999-05-05

"I recently believed that my spouse was having an affair. I came across this book at the library, and when I got in to reading it, knew that an affair was in progress. As I got further into the book, I learned what love is all about, why affairs occur, and understood that I was as much to blame for the affair as my spouse. I also had alot of hope that if I could get my spouse to understand the book, that our marriage could be saved and made much stronger then it had ever been. The concepts in the book also helped me to understand most relationships I had in my life and where conflicts with relationships come from. For me the key to understanding this is that people are simply different. People are not wrong or right, they are just different. Once I understood this, I also understood some of the concepts discussed in other books I have read like "The Road Less Traveled", "The Bible", "The Seven Habits of Highly Succesful People", etc. I think the book has helped my spouse and I to remain married and go on with what I hope will be a wonderful life together or apart."
~ Written on 1999-03-24