The Invisible Partners: How the Male and Female in Each of Us Affects Our Relationships

"Because of dreams and thoughts that would come to me , I stayed away from developing male friendships because I did not know that I had an unmet need for an emotional attachment with a man.I confused this emotional need with sexual desire so I kept my distance from all men. Not having an emotional attachment with my father left part of me unsatisfied and seeking that attachment. This book helped me see that my yearning was not for sex but for a closeness that was denied me as a boy."
~ Written on 1999-04-27

"The Invisible Partners is simply the best book on relationships I have ever read. Sanford simplifies the highly complex dilemma in relationships of projecting our shadow side onto our spouse. He maintains a clear respect for both men and women and helps us understand how our psychological differences can create havoc if they are left unnoticed. The joy of this book is that it not only has great information but is also highly entertaining and very well written.

Though written in the 80's this is a book that I continue to give to my clients in couples therapy who are eager to understand deeply what is driving their relationship problems. This is a book for the 21st century."
~ Written on 1999-01-29