Getting to Commitment: Overcoming the Eight Greatest Obstacles to Lasting Connection (and Finding the Courage to Love)

"I read this book after first reading Stephen Carter's 'He's Scared, She's Scared'.
If you have ever had a failed relationship, or a string of short-term failures, then you will find the answers in this beautifully written and easy to read book.
Stephen Carter is not a whizz kid psychologist, but he speaks from personal experience and the experience of thousands of people he has interviewed over the years.
This book will not give you the key to change your 'difficult' partner, but it will be a total revelation.
The 8 obstacles described are so simple and yet at times may be the hardest thing you ever have to do. It is never easy to face our fears and change ourselves. But only by doing this will those of us, who have struggled to hold onto relationships, succeed. And believe me, this book has all the secrets for success.
It is now my bible.
Stephen Carter is handing you 'The Secret'.
Take it, use it and succeed.
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~ Written on 2007-08-28

"I have never felt compelled to write a review on Amazon until I read this book. I have been in a relationship for some time now with a wonderful guy who warned me from the outset that he has commitment issues, so I decided to get this book to (a) try to understand him better and (b) leave it laying around, hoping he would pick it up and read it.

I was in for a surprise. Three pages into the book and I realised I wasn't learning about his commitment issues, I was reading about mine!

This book explains the signs of both active and passive commitment-phobes, and also how to break away from this and go about constructing a healthy relationship.

This is an excellent book; just be warned it might not tell you what you were expecting to hear."
~ Written on 2007-08-28

"I read this book in the hopes of unearthing the commitment issues my old boyfriend was suffering from. Imagine my surprise to find myself in the same book. This book clearly points out some of the self-constructed barriers we put up, when we honestly think we are giving love our best shot. If you are thinking you might need this book, read this book."
~ Written on 1999-08-14

"This book was given me by a co-worker and it really helped me to understand so much of what I had been doing in previous relationships...and what not to do in the one that I am currently in. I have been seeing this wonderful guy for about 5 months and he wants to build a life together...I refuse to even call him my boyfriend just yet, all because I think that somehow I will ultimately end up hurt or running for fear of committment...this book is an eye-opener for anyone who has had a pattern of loves lost or never found due to our pasts, our parents or those that we call ourselves "in love" with....I highly recommend it....It makes me feel like I am finally looking in the mirror at myself, my soul and my ability to be in a healthy and committed relationship...I know now that I am able and I deserve it..."
~ Written on 1999-07-24

"Steven Carter definitely knows this subject first hand and it shows. As a woman who has dated more than one commitmentphobic, it's helpful to understand why many men can't commit.I particularly liked the examples of the conflicts between the couples throughout the book. I would recommend this book to anyone who wants to make a commitment but can't figure themselves out or to anyone frustrated by a noncommital mate. Learning to deal with reality versus fantasy and fear is really highlighted."
~ Written on 1999-04-07