Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder: Coping When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder

"This book is less clinical than 'I hate you, don't leave me'. Yes I understand that some people may take offence to some of the advice given but with such an emotive topic it's bound to cause upset as the disorder itself does.

For people who live with someone who has BPD and who haven't got anybody who they can discuss their experiences with or daren't discuss the issues with anyone for fear of confrontation with the person with BPD, or being seen as 'a doormat' by others, it helps to keep reality in check and see that the feelings you may encounter are justified and rational. Living with somebody with BPD may make you feel like you are 'losing it' yourself and I think any book that offers assistance, based on much research, is a welcome addition and relief for partners, friends and family, and even the BPD themselves.

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~ Written on 2007-12-19

"I could not agree more with the views of Chris in Glasgow. This book is hateful. Literally "hate full". It seeks to reinforce the "diagnosis" of borderline personality disorder. It labels people who display behaviours which may lead to this "diagnosis' as "BPs" and people who don't as "nons" - a level of sophistication that belies the book's homespun roots. As american as apple pies and foreign adventures. Approach it with caution - the same goes for the webpage run by the author. "
~ Written on 2007-11-28

"What a wishy washy "don,t hurt the litle darlings " type of book this is!
It seemed to me to say a lot of "whatever you do do,nt upset them"
The people who have this disorder DEVASTATE others. They just blithely say "thats me,what a character I am" and no matter how the people in their lives try to handle them it makes no difference.
From experience they actually become excited when they can see the emotional destruction they cause. Most leave trails of devasated women and children (mainly) behind, move on to other relationships without a care, and sweep the last victim under the carpet."
~ Written on 2007-06-06

"Unquestionably helpful and positive. If you are in doubt; buy it. Even if, infact, you are with someone or related to someone without BPD, this may actually help you. It teaches you things about yourself, as much as helping you to handle others. Highly recommended as a starting point and I can honestly say it has -thus far- saved my relationship with the troubled person in my life."
~ Written on 2006-07-25

"I bought this book for my partner and tentatively looked through it. I was impressed and suprised that they have been able to take such a complex condition and explain it in so clearly and sensitively. By using the voice of sufferers and of their partners, it is one of the best descriptions of the condition which validates all concerned. It was also very enlightening for me in seeing how contrary and difficult it can be living with me, even though I'm in treatment and actively managing by BPD, that my partner will still be experiencing me as inconsistent in my attention - I wasn't getting that it could upset him. If this book does the job, he should start recognising what he has been going through and that it isn't all him. I believe knowledge is power and anything that gives us an edge and some tools is valuable. We'll see if this book can do the job."
~ Written on 2005-03-14