Buddhism for Mothers: A Calm Approach to Caring for Yourself and Your Children

"Every so often you come across a book that you know has the potential to change your life, and this is one of them. I came across this book as an Amazon recommendation and ordered it out of curiosity. I don't have children yet (pregnant at the moment) but thought that I probably won't have much time for reading when we do have kids and so it might be a good idea to read it ahead of time. And I'm glad I did as it has given me time to take on and absorb the content. Even not having children, I was brought almost to tears on several occasions but the sheer truth of what Sarah Napthali writes and, having just finished reading it for the first time, the first thing that I'm going to do is read it again as there is just so much to take in. I already know that it is a book that I will return to again and again and that will comfort me as well as making me a better person (and therefore better mother, partner, friend etc.) if I can put into practice even just a small part of her advice. "
~ Written on 2008-05-11

"I am not a Buddhist, although there is much about the religion that I think can help us in everyday life. I picked up this book more for the tips on parenting than to learn more about Buddhism. For this reason I only skimmed through the initial and final chapters which are more about Buddhism, and concentrated on the segments in the middle.

What I particularly like about this book is that is very upfront about how difficult and lonely parenting can sometimes feel. Sarah Napthali (and the other women whom she quotes) are very frank about the times when they've been angry with their children or partners, when they've felt depressed or anxious or when they just fail to enjoy parenting as much as they'd like to. It's clear that being a Buddhist doesn't mean that you never feel these difficult emotions, just that you work on not giving in to them. Because this book is written in such an unjudgemental and empathetic way, I found it very inspiring. I think this should be required reading for every mother!

My only critique is really that the book is a still too topline. Although Napthali does give a handy list of techniques to help you parent in a more calm way, I found that some of them were more headlines than how to-s. The book also includes a chapters on topics like concerns about ageing and relationships with your partner and while these were interesting I would have preferred her to spend more time on parenting issues.

Nevertheless, it's a fabulous book to keep on your bedside table. I liked to read a few pages and reflect back at the end of the day."
~ Written on 2008-02-07

"Why isn't this book more widely known about? I stumbled on it in a bookshop and it is by far one the best books on motherhood I have read and even one of the best self-help books I've read. The chapter on anger alone is worth the purchase price. Every new mother and mother of young children should have a copy. It has helped me on a daily basis, especially when I've felt frustrated or isolated and both my under-twos have been crying at once. By the way, it's not a silly New-Agey spiritual book, but very practical and very informative. I'm not at all religious and am not a Buddhist, but since reading it I have become very interested in Buddhism. So, on top of all that, it's probably a great introduction to Buddhism too. Also, the author deserves praise for her honesty about her own tribulations sometimes as a mother. Thank you Sarah Napthali."
~ Written on 2004-10-01

"This is the best book I have read on general parenting and I would highly recommend this book to every mother and/or father.

The author uses humour, intelligence and empathy in communicating the daily challenges of being a parent. The book also covers relationships in general and those with close family members and friends.

Good parenting is not something that comes easily all the time and the author acknowledges this and offers ways to approach daily life that help both parent and child. Although the book discusses Buddhists ideologies it should not put off someone of another faith as it is really about seeing and dealing with your children in a kind and respectful manner whilst also giving you the tools to manage life in a less stressful way."
~ Written on 2004-09-23

"as a buddhist and a mum i was very eager to read this book. it covers all the basics of buddhism and translates it perfectly to the problems and joys of being a mother/parent. it is a great read and a must for every parent.

edit february 2007: i am still picking this book up often to read through it for advice on dealing with motherhood. it's the only parenting book left in my bookcase after having two children."
~ Written on 2004-06-27