The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate (Mens Edition)

"I love this book! It is written and articulated very well. Step-by-step Gary Chapman identifies five major ways that we experience love in a relationship. "The Five Love Languages" helped me discover how I have communicated and how it can be more effective. Now I see that we can keep our love tank full by speaking our partner's primary love language because she or he will find it much easier to understand! The given examples were fun to read and it was easy for me to relate to different scenarios. It is a great book to anyone who wants to understand the dynamics in a relationship with their loved ones!

Also you might want to check out the books by Ariel and Shya Kane; they are brilliant! The Kanes' book "Being Here: Modern Day Tales of Enlightenment" and "How To Create a Magical Relationship" surprised me with a whole new perspective on relationships. I used to suppress myself thinking that by "sacrificing", I would make my partner happy and the relationship would last. Well, they didn't last too long using that approach. From the Kanes' books and the website, I discovered if I am in the moment, I can truly express myself and it actually complements my relationships! Truly magical. I highly recommend them to anyone who wants to have a satisfying relationship! "
~ Written on 2008-07-03

"I am working on building a more intimate relationship with my wife and this is by no means easy but i have tried some of the advice in this book and it certainly does work. I would recommend it to any married couple."
~ Written on 2008-07-01

"I personally was given this book by my wife to read and I wish I had read it 10 years ago. The author is very right when he says that the "in-love" feeling that we first experience when we meet someone can disappear in the first 2 years of marriage. Once the "in-love" emotion disappears we wonder why we loved that person to begin with. Thus begins the excuses we generate to separate or divorce.

In this book, the author shows that love is not a feeling, but it is a decision. The decision that everyone needs to make to speak the love language of the person we love. That love language could be words of affection and encouragement, doing household chores, touching, giving gifts or spending quality time together.

While the book is great and very helpful, it may not appeal to non-Christians because the author insists by drawing examples from the Bible and Jesus' own life. While this is okay, and I am not anti-religion, I do believe the biblical references are unnecessary and may turn off secular readers. This is a pity as the book's main theory that we speak five separate love languages is very plausible and should be given respect."
~ Written on 2008-05-28

"From a rich reduction of over twenty years as a marriage counselor, Gary Chapman shares ways that communication, either in speaking or behaviors, support or dissolve healthy marriages. One form of communication or "language" that Gary Chapman presents is called "Quality Time". Becoming aware of my need for this "quality time" helped me to rediscover passion and love for my husband of eight years. We both lead busy lives with many hobbies and interests; coming together at the end of the day and sharing has brought us closer. In giving one another our total attention our relationship and our individual sense of self worth has deepened to new levels.

In reading The Five Love Languages I was reminded of another incredible relationship book written by Ariel and Shya Kane called "How to Create a Magical Relationship". The Kanes' approach focuses on awareness and an ability to truly listen to one's partner. It too enriched my ability to spend "quality time" with the many people who matter. If you are looking for a richer deeper level in all your relationships, I highly recommend either of these insightful books."
~ Written on 2008-03-30

"This book is excellent in every respect. It is for indiviuals and/or couples, is very easy to read, not preachy, full of practical ideas and exercises (rather than endless theory)and most importantly full of HOPE for a more fulfilling life. It provides insights that can help those who just want to improve the good marriages they already have. But it can really help those struggling with a troubled marriage, whether as a result of infidelity, those wondering why they don't love their partner they way they used to or just the the ups and downs of marriage. Importantly, the author gives ideas that can be practiced whether or not your partner wants to participate in the improvment process. Strongly recommended."
~ Written on 2007-05-17