The Mistress Manual: A Good Girl's Guide to Female Dominance (Erotic)

"I don't usually gravitate towards the dominance side of bdsm but I did have a lover at one time who wished to explore his own submissive nature. This book is an excellent education for any woman or man, for that matter, who is interested in experiencing female dominance. This is not a simple overview of female dominance or bdsm techniques but a true manual that takes you through the evolution of becoming a Mistress and the enacting of fantasy with your male partner. If you are new to the concept of female dominance this is an excellent book to guide you through the pleasure and pain of being the ultimate Nursemaid, Governess, Queen, Amazon, or Goddess. The book is broken into three main sections: Becoming a Mistress, The Mistress in Action, and The Five Archetypal Fantasies.

Becoming a Mistress brings light to idea of female dominance and the pleasure that can come from command while also discussing the psychological aspects of dominance and finding a partner to explore your fantasies. I enjoyed this section immensely since so many factors concerning personal guilt and relationships are addressed in regards to female dominance. If you're new to the sensual art of dominance you will gather a great deal of self-awareness and understanding in this section concerning bdsm and female dominance

The Mistress in Action begins the real sexual play of dominance between you and your male partner. From the language of dominance to the ties that bind you'll learn some basics that you can expand on with additional reading. This is an excellent book for the novice domme. Once you and our submissive discover specific items that are enjoyable I highly recommend SM101 by Jay Wiseman to explore more techniques and in-depth understanding of BDSM.

The Five Archetypal Fantasies are The Nursemaid, The Governess, The Queen, The Amazon, and the Goddess. Each archetype is outlined from elements of the fantasy, skills needed in the fantasy, enacting the perfect scenario, and variations of each fantasy. If you're unsure how to begin this section will eliminate all doubts. This is a step by step how to from what you should be thinking to create the fantasy to what to wear.

Another great part of this book is that conflict between fantasy choice between you and your submissive is discussed and addressed thoroughly so that everybody wins so you can move on to the sensual art of female dominance. As I mentioned I don't gravitate to dominance but if I ever needed to help someone fulfill their fantasy to be dominated by a Nursemaid, Governess, Queen, Amazon, or Goddess I know exactly how to take control now that I've read The Mistress Manual.

girldiver:)"
~ Written on 2005-07-06

"I read the majority of this book with a wicked smile on my face.

Not really dealing the Leather aspects of a D/S BDSM relationship, I did find it somehow lacking a little 'something'. However, on the whole I found it fascinating.

A good book for the beginner 'domme', but I think it may be useful to have some knowledge of the partner's needs and thoughts before thinking that this book can be some kind of 'bible'.

Overall though, an interesting read, and would recommend it."
~ Written on 2002-09-18

"Interesting and useful. The book is split into sections, some of which you may belive are irrelevant to you. This would be a mistake. Read all the sections to gain the optimum benefit from all of the many good and interesting tips."
~ Written on 2002-03-17

"Generally i found the book lacking in new ideas. Although i personally am pretty new to the s+m scene i expected to read about issues and ideas that i had not yet experienced. Don't get me wrong - this is a well laid out beginners guide which makes for excellent bedtime reading. I wish it was a bit more in depth with regard to slave training and more adventurous punishments. Whatever you do - don't let your slave / sub get his/her hands on this - it could give away all your top secrets!! I recommend this as a first time s+m guide!"
~ Written on 2002-02-15

"He wants it, he really does...he wants you take control, and Mistress Lorelei will help you do it. This book identifies the different types of Domme/sub relationship and gives suggestions for fantasy scenes, techniques, and safety.
You can have him eating out of your hand, or anywhere else for that matter. For those interested in developing the more feminine side of their man , (and getting the washing up and shoe cleaning done) get The Sissy Maid training manual by the same author."
~ Written on 2001-11-21