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The Dance of Fear: Rising Above Anxiety, Fear, and Shame to Be Your Best and Bravest Self

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By: Harriet Lerner

Format: Paperback
From: Harper Paperbacks
Pub. Date: April 2005

Product Details:
Catalog: Book
Release Date: 2005-05-03
Media: Paperback
Number Of Pages: 256
Ean: 9780060081584
Isbn: 0060081589

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EDITORIAL REVIEW

Unhappiness, says bestselling author Harriet Lerner, is fueled by three key emotions: anxiety, fear, and shame. They are the uninvited guests in our lives. When tragedy or hardship hits, they may become our constant companions.

Anxiety can wash over us like a tidal wave or operate as a silent thrum under the surface of our daily lives. With stories that are sometimes hilarious and sometimes heartbreaking, Lerner takes us from "fear lite" to the most difficult lessons the universe sends us. We learn:

how a man was "cured in a day" of the fear of rejection -- and what we can learn from his story
how the author overcame her dread of public speaking when her worst fears were realized
how to deal with the fear of not being good enough, and with the shame of feeling essentially flawed and inadequate
how to stay calm and clear in an anxious, crazy workplace
how to manage fear and despair when life sends a crash course in illness, vulnerability, and loss
how "positive thinking" helps -- and harms
how to be our best and bravest selves, even when we are terrified and have internalized the shaming messages of others

No one signs up for anxiety, fear, and shame, but we can’t avoid them either. As we learn to respond to these three key emotions in new ways, we can live more fully in the present and move into the future with courage, clarity, humor, and hope. Fear and Other Uninvited Guests shows us how.

USER REVIEWS

"I loved this book because Lerner doesn't try to bash you over the head with her techniques but offers real-world advice that isn't patronizing, twelve steps or cookie-cutter. She acknowledges that you are entitled to your feelings and that those feelings are never going to go away. Like all of her books, she talks in a soothing, conversational voice. After reading this book, just the knowledge that someone knows what you are going through but doesn't always know the answer was a small amount of comfort. The main point of the books is that best way to deal with feelings of fear, shame and anxiety is to acknowledge them.
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~ Written on 2008-06-17

"After having read Harriet Lerner's Dance of Anger, I ordered several of her other books, including this one. While it was very good, I got a lot more out of Dance of Anger. But I would still recommend this book to anyone who is experiencing anxiety and especially shame."
~ Written on 2008-06-08

"This is a great book...all of Harriet Lerner's books are great. If you are looking for advice on how to not let fear take over opportunity in your life, this book will give you a great start."
~ Written on 2008-04-07

"I read this book after having read The Dance of Intimacy several months ago. The Dance of Intimacy was like a huge wake-up call for me, whereas this book was very interesting and helpful, just not as earth-shattering. I am generally an anxious person, and I did learn a little bit about living with my anxiety and not making it worse. But I didn't connect with all the stories the way I did with the previous Lerner book I read. I still think Harriet Lerner is an amazing insightful woman. I'm glad that I read and bought this book, but maybe my expectations were a little too high. I would give the book 3 1/2 stars if I could."
~ Written on 2007-06-14

"Great book and good way to understand how to manage your anxieties and fears. This book will not make your fears go away, but rather enable you to work with them. A pratical approach. "
~ Written on 2007-01-29