Divorce Poison: Protecting the Parent-Child Bond from a Vindictive Ex

"After a couple of years of my husband and I trying to figure out what was wrong with my step daughter who's now 11, we finally found out that her mom has been repeatedly telling her numerous appalling lies about her dad which she believed and became scared and distant from her dad. She never mentioned the bad mouthing from her mom because she was told by her mom if she spoke up the judge would take her away from her mom. Finally it all came out during an extended stay with us and with the help of a couple of books "Divorce poison" and "The boys & girls book about divorce" we have been able to appropriately address this concern and the positive results already show in my step daughter. Since using the book's recommendations my step daughter has opened up about a lot of negative things going on at her mother's home which we were not aware of, and we have now been able to guide her on how to deal with it emotionally and how to address it directly with her mom. She acts and looks so much better now, her confidence has already improved and she is now relaxed with us like during the old time. This book is an excellent tool to help deal with a very sensitive and troubling situation that can seriously damage a child emotional welfare. "
~ Written on 2008-09-02

"Anyone who has seen parental alienation inflicted on a child up close knows what a horrible form of child abuse it is. Children afflicted with this child abuse often carry the psychological wounds for the rest of their lives. Unfortunately, our divorce system encourages this abuse by needlessly designating one person as the real parent and the other parent as a scapegoat and not a real parent. This creates a situation ideal to proprogate this sort of abusive behavior.

Fortunately, this book provides a good survey of this form of child abuse, including how to recognize it and how to deal with it. This is important because the first time you see this abuse, it is so horrible you can't believe it is happening. This book is a must read for anyone in the divorce industry, especially judges."
~ Written on 2008-08-31

"informative, accurate and advice is well explained. The children involved are ALWAYS of the highest priority. As usual though grandparents are forced to take a back seat and await a time when things are so out of control and the children are damaged before the court system recognizes the important roll they play in the children's future."
~ Written on 2008-08-28

"I have worked extensively in this area of family therapy, and I strongly recommend this book to any parent with children who is going through a divorce> It is also a must read for family attorneys, judges and social workers. "
~ Written on 2008-08-11

"Wow! Incredibly insightful...

Dr. Warshak comes at this subject from all angles! I have to say that I saw so many similarities to my situation that it was as if he was writing this book from my experiences, sadness, frustration and at times, horror of being the alienated parent. I'll also admit that I found myself being admonished for things (little mistakes) that I inadvertingly made in trying to solve issues. I have read and re-read ideas and suggestions that he presented. I have tried to make them habits in the last few months, trying to learn from all the craziness that has kept my life in a whirlwind of divorce and custody proceedings the last two years. Through some of the ideas presented in this book, I'm learning to think in a different, more productive way - for my own sanity and that of my children. I am hopeful that with this new way of thinking, I can overcome this horrible situation. So for that... thank you, Dr. Warshak.

In my opinion, this is a great book for those who are struggling with finding answers on how to cope with divorce and alienation from your children. Good luck and Godspeed to all of you!
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~ Written on 2008-07-28