The No-Cry Discipline Solution: Gentle Ways to Encourage Good Behavior Without Whining, Tantrums, and Tears (Pantley)

"I don't remember exactly how I came across this book, but I'm glad I did. In one of my favorite parts of the book, Part 2, "Everyday Challenges" the author writes "And who would have thought that raising one tiny child could bring so many frustrating everyday challenges". The first few paragraphs rang true with me. My eyes filled up because I had a particularly challenging day that day, and I felt like finally, I found a book and an author that would help. My twin girls are now four and a half years old. I have read various parenting and child development books throughout my life as a new mom, some were more helpful than others. Reading this book, however, is like having a conversation with someone. Someone who understands and wants to help. It gave me a different outlook on raising our girls. I didn't want to constantly battle, and have constant discipline issues. I had fallen into a rut and felt like I wasn't being the mom I wanted to be. I ran out of sticky tabs - highlighting various parts of this book that I wanted to share with my husband. I highly recommend it, and am thankful for the realistic approach she offers. I have tried to not overwhelm myself with tons of books. I would pick some up here and there. This book is the kind of book that I will hold on to and reference regularly to remind myself on how to keep going, positively. I have seen changes in my girls and myself with help from suggestions in this book and I am grateful.
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~ Written on 2008-08-20

"The beginning of this book has some stuff I skipped over because I wanted to get right to some ideas to help me interact with my two year old. There are some practical, little changes that this book suggests that are very helpful! Simple things like instead of saying "go get in the car right now!", trying something like, "Can you hop to the car?" or "Do you want to walk or skip to the car?" If you are looking on a whole new philosophy on discipline, this isn't the book, but there are plenty of ideas to change little interactions with your toddler so temper tantrums are avoided."
~ Written on 2008-07-26

"I'm only slightly more than half-way through this book. However, in the last three days I have used techiniques from this book (on my three year old) and all three times successively. In my opinion, books of this nature are really psychology books (how to deal with another person, in this case a toddler/child, and how to put things into perspective for ourselves). Most everything here we already know, but in the heat of the moment will virtually never have the ability to bring it into action. BUT this book makes you think AND act. That's because the written word is very powerful. Also, some of the ideas will not only help you have a better relationship with your child, but with other adults as well.

I don't agree with everything in the book and some of the solutions are not right for me, but the book certainly got me thinking and to be more creative in my parenting. "
~ Written on 2008-05-30

"I can only say good things about this book. Before you conclude that it is just another attachment parenting book with obvious advice or a too-soft approach, I urge you to read it in its entirety. Particularly, I urge you to read this one with an open mind regarding your own behavior and your pre-existing parenting beliefs. Pantley manages to help the parent via validation of parental feelings and reactions while providing sound, behaviorally-based, sensitive strategies for raising a happy, kind, thinking individual - which is what we all want, isn't it? This one's a keeper for reference too, as there are wonderful summary pages that can help at a glance later. Pantley's approach is perfect for those of us with one of the 15-20% of children that are emotionally sensitive (Also see Elaine Aron's book, "The Highly Sensitive Child"). "
~ Written on 2008-05-29

"This book is great if your looking for discipline ideas rather than a strict guideline that you must follow each part in order for the concept to work. This is the 2nd book that I've read by Elizabeth Pantley and have enjoyed reading both of them. I would recommend this book to anyone who doesn't believe in spanking."
~ Written on 2008-05-18