My Mother/My Self: The Daughter's Search for Identity
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By: Nancy Friday
Format: Paperback
From: Delta
Pub. Date: August 1997
From: Delta
Pub. Date: August 1997
Product Details:
Catalog: Book
Release Date: 1997-09-08
Media: Paperback
Number Of Pages: 448
Ean: 9780385320153
Isbn: 0385320159
Catalog: Book
Release Date: 1997-09-08
Media: Paperback
Number Of Pages: 448
Ean: 9780385320153
Isbn: 0385320159
ABOUT THE BOOK
EDITORIAL REVIEW
When Nancy Friday began her research for My Mother/My Self in the early 1970’s no work existed that explored the unique interaction between mother and daughter. Today psychotherapists throughout the world acknowledge that if women are to be able to love without possessing, to find work that fulfills them, and to discover their full sexuality, they must first acknowledge their identity as separate from their mother’s. Nancy Friday’s book played a major role in that acceptance. The greatest gift a good mother can give remains unquestioning love planted deep in the first year of life, so deep and anassailable that the tiny child grown to womanhood is never held back by the fear of losing that love, no matter what her own choice in love, sexuality, or work may be.
Through candid self-disclosure and hundreds of interviews, Friday investigates a generational legacy and reveals the conflicting feelings of anger, hate, and love the daughter’s hold for their mothers–and why they so often “become” that mother themselves.
Through candid self-disclosure and hundreds of interviews, Friday investigates a generational legacy and reveals the conflicting feelings of anger, hate, and love the daughter’s hold for their mothers–and why they so often “become” that mother themselves.
USER REVIEWS
"This book has too bitter a spirit for me and seems more directed to women who have a sour relationship with their mother; or are not happy being a mother themselves and trying to deal with that. I cannot see how it is helpful or how it even fits into a mother/daughter help category; it seems to be Nancy Friday's personal tale of how her mother failed her and she is trying to explain why everybody else Must Also be Screwed Up and Unhappy. How is this book constructive and helpful? Not for me. Try something else, really."
~ Written on 2008-03-29
~ Written on 2008-03-29
"Unless a woman has completley disconnected from her mother (successfully and has maintained it for several years) ... she stands a very high chance of being exactly like her or an extreme opposite to her instead of who she is as a unique person. This book by Nancy Friday explains why. One cannot cut the psychic umbilical cord alone, it takes effort, commitment, and intention to do so. A timeless book on how to heal and love who you are and where you came from while leaving the negative legacies behind."
~ Written on 2006-06-07
~ Written on 2006-06-07
"It took me a while to get into this book... there were several occasions where I tempted to give up on it.
I'm glad I stuck with it though.
Those of you with a difficult mother/daughter relationship will probably benefit from reading this book. I know I did. Even though the author isn't a mother (which does bother me a little), I feel that her theories make sense.
The version I have of this book is quite old and was published in 1977(I picked it up in a used bookstore). I'm not sure what type of editing has been done on newer versions but I'm sure the main message will be the same.
My Mother My Self would benefit women who would like a deeper understanding of their relationship with their own mother, and also their daughters. Men might like to read this to understand the complex dynamics of these relationships."
~ Written on 2004-10-23
I'm glad I stuck with it though.
Those of you with a difficult mother/daughter relationship will probably benefit from reading this book. I know I did. Even though the author isn't a mother (which does bother me a little), I feel that her theories make sense.
The version I have of this book is quite old and was published in 1977(I picked it up in a used bookstore). I'm not sure what type of editing has been done on newer versions but I'm sure the main message will be the same.
My Mother My Self would benefit women who would like a deeper understanding of their relationship with their own mother, and also their daughters. Men might like to read this to understand the complex dynamics of these relationships."
~ Written on 2004-10-23
"This book was written for women, as such men will come away feeling that women are "really screwed up" about thier mothers, and while it does attempt to explain certian things, you do get the feeling that the author wants somebody to blame for the things that have gone wrong in her life... One wonders what her mother though on reading it, if she ever has.
Personally I think "Our Mother's Daughters" by Judith Arcana (published by The Women's Press) is a far better book, a far better read for men too, especially if you want to understand the woman your mother is, rather than the woman you would have her be.
I love my mother, I read her copies of both books, her mother is now dead, it took her a lifetime to deal with the pain, don't waste yours doing the same. Forgive and forget, we are only human after all."
~ Written on 2003-12-06
Personally I think "Our Mother's Daughters" by Judith Arcana (published by The Women's Press) is a far better book, a far better read for men too, especially if you want to understand the woman your mother is, rather than the woman you would have her be.
I love my mother, I read her copies of both books, her mother is now dead, it took her a lifetime to deal with the pain, don't waste yours doing the same. Forgive and forget, we are only human after all."
~ Written on 2003-12-06
"What I loved most about this book was that the women who gave birth to us are our mothers, but women who teach us life lessons are also our mothers. The definition of mother grows with our abilities to accept more nurturers and teachers in our lives. It is very important to accept the fact about our mothers that they were only human and did the best they could, but that's another life lesson that can ripple more globally.
Ultimately, this book is about choosing mentors and tolerance for human frailties. I'm glad it's still in print."
~ Written on 2003-08-14
Ultimately, this book is about choosing mentors and tolerance for human frailties. I'm glad it's still in print."
~ Written on 2003-08-14