Pregnancy After a Loss: A Guide to Pregnancy After a Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Infant Death
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By: Carol Cirulli Lanham
Format: Paperback
From: Berkley Trade
Pub. Date: September 1999
From: Berkley Trade
Pub. Date: September 1999
Product Details:
Catalog: Book
Release Date: 1999-10-01
Media: Paperback
Number Of Pages: 375
Ean: 9780425170472
Isbn: 0425170470
Catalog: Book
Release Date: 1999-10-01
Media: Paperback
Number Of Pages: 375
Ean: 9780425170472
Isbn: 0425170470
ABOUT THE BOOK
EDITORIAL REVIEW
"A 'must-have' guide for the devastated couple dealing with the many questions and fears that occur with a subsequent pregnancy." --Candace Hurley, Executive Director/Founder, Sidelines National Support Network
For a woman who has experienced a miscarriage, stillbirth, or the death of an infant, conceiving another child can be fraught with mixed emotions. This guide, filled with up-to-date medical information and written by a woman who herself experienced a successful pregnancy after the loss of her first baby, can help women cope with their anxiety. It offers guidance for women asking such questions as: * Why did it happen--and how can I make sure it doesn't happen again? * Will my next pregnancy be considered high-risk? * How long should I wait before getting pregnant again? * What can I expect at prenatal exams? * Will I ever be able to love another baby as much as I love the one I lost?
Pregnancy after a loss can be a time of great emotional upheaval--but also, a time of healing and hope. With this sensible, sensitive guide, women can put their minds at ease--and learn to look forward to the future as they make peace with the past.
"Compassionate and comprehensive." --Perry-Lynn Moffitt, coauthor of A Silent Sorrow: Pregnancy Loss
* Contains up-to-the-minute medical advice and information
* Unlike other books about pregnancy loss that focus solely on the grieving process, Pregnancy After a Loss helps women to prepare, both psychologically and physically, for a new pregnancy
For a woman who has experienced a miscarriage, stillbirth, or the death of an infant, conceiving another child can be fraught with mixed emotions. This guide, filled with up-to-date medical information and written by a woman who herself experienced a successful pregnancy after the loss of her first baby, can help women cope with their anxiety. It offers guidance for women asking such questions as: * Why did it happen--and how can I make sure it doesn't happen again? * Will my next pregnancy be considered high-risk? * How long should I wait before getting pregnant again? * What can I expect at prenatal exams? * Will I ever be able to love another baby as much as I love the one I lost?
Pregnancy after a loss can be a time of great emotional upheaval--but also, a time of healing and hope. With this sensible, sensitive guide, women can put their minds at ease--and learn to look forward to the future as they make peace with the past.
"Compassionate and comprehensive." --Perry-Lynn Moffitt, coauthor of A Silent Sorrow: Pregnancy Loss
* Contains up-to-the-minute medical advice and information
* Unlike other books about pregnancy loss that focus solely on the grieving process, Pregnancy After a Loss helps women to prepare, both psychologically and physically, for a new pregnancy
USER REVIEWS
"I feel badly for women who have had miscarriages -- they missed out on so much bonding that happens later in pregnancy, the joy of feeling their babies move, etc. But I can personally attest to the terrible, unfathomable trauma that comes with delivering a perfect, but dead baby, after a completely uneventful pregnancy. What to do with the shower presents all over the house, the pile of thank-you notes that were about to be stamped; the breasts, so close to our broken hearts, filling to feed a baby who is not there. It is horrific, and yet, transformative, if we're able to focus on the love we have for our lost babies. Stillbirth is far more common than I ever would have thought, but far less common than miscarriage. I suppose the author/publisher could have reworded the subtitle of the book to make it clear it was directed at parents who experienced late-term/full-term losses. There are fewer options available to women who experienced stillbirth or infant death; and the support groups are populated primarily by women who had miscarriages simply because it's far more common. Please don't give something a bad review just because it didn't apply to your circumstances. Best wishes to all of you on your journey."
~ Written on 2008-03-18
~ Written on 2008-03-18
"I read this book a few weeks after I lost my newborn son, due to severe pre-eclampsia. Before this happened to me, I didn't even know what pre-e was. It struck fast and I had to have an emergency c-section at 23 weeks into my pregnancy. My son, Tyler Michael, weighed only 11 oz., but he lived for 5 days.
This book helped me to deal with my grief in some ways, but for the most part I shoved it all deep down inside, and I just focused on getting pregnant again ASAP. My son died in March of 04 and I was pregnant again by September of the same year. This book got me through the some of the most difficult months in my life. I couldn't bond with my unborn child because I wouldn't allow myself to think about the future. It was truly a day by day ordeal for us. I let me family do the nursey 3 weeks before my scheduled c-section, but no clothes or anything like that. The heartbreak I endured watching Tyler's things being carried out of my home scarred my too deep for that. I read this book constantly. The personal stories from women who had been where I was and got through it was sometimes the only way I could keep under control.
My only complaint about this book is that I wish she would have included more info on parenting after a loss. The few things that were included struck a deep cord with me. I held my daughter practically the entire 6 days I was at the hospital, and she slept in a swing in our room until she outgrew it at 9 months. I also am over protective, probably more than I'll admit to. I shoved my grief for Tyler down futher, and it came to a head this past September. "They" say that if you don't grieve, not to worry, it'll wait for you. Indeed it did. The loss of Tyler made it hard to give myself completely to my daughter, so i felt guilt on that on top of everything else. I had major clinical depression and had to be hospitalized for a few days, and was in an intensive outpatient program for 5 weeks after I got released. It changed my life, and I'm feeling more like myself than I have since I got pregant with Tyler. Great doctors, the right medication, and ways to deal with my loss have all improved my life. I'd love it if she worte a book on parenting after a loss, it's harder than people think.
I donanated a copy of this to my obgyn, my family doctor, my maternal fetal med doc, and my psychiatrist. I hope that it can help some more of the women who desperatly need it.
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~ Written on 2007-11-28
This book helped me to deal with my grief in some ways, but for the most part I shoved it all deep down inside, and I just focused on getting pregnant again ASAP. My son died in March of 04 and I was pregnant again by September of the same year. This book got me through the some of the most difficult months in my life. I couldn't bond with my unborn child because I wouldn't allow myself to think about the future. It was truly a day by day ordeal for us. I let me family do the nursey 3 weeks before my scheduled c-section, but no clothes or anything like that. The heartbreak I endured watching Tyler's things being carried out of my home scarred my too deep for that. I read this book constantly. The personal stories from women who had been where I was and got through it was sometimes the only way I could keep under control.
My only complaint about this book is that I wish she would have included more info on parenting after a loss. The few things that were included struck a deep cord with me. I held my daughter practically the entire 6 days I was at the hospital, and she slept in a swing in our room until she outgrew it at 9 months. I also am over protective, probably more than I'll admit to. I shoved my grief for Tyler down futher, and it came to a head this past September. "They" say that if you don't grieve, not to worry, it'll wait for you. Indeed it did. The loss of Tyler made it hard to give myself completely to my daughter, so i felt guilt on that on top of everything else. I had major clinical depression and had to be hospitalized for a few days, and was in an intensive outpatient program for 5 weeks after I got released. It changed my life, and I'm feeling more like myself than I have since I got pregant with Tyler. Great doctors, the right medication, and ways to deal with my loss have all improved my life. I'd love it if she worte a book on parenting after a loss, it's harder than people think.
I donanated a copy of this to my obgyn, my family doctor, my maternal fetal med doc, and my psychiatrist. I hope that it can help some more of the women who desperatly need it.
"
~ Written on 2007-11-28
"Our first child, our son Wyatt, was stillborn and it has been the most devastating event of our entire lives. I bought this book after a fellow angel parent recommended it and absolutely loved it. It is so "nice" to see all the thoughts and feelings you have after losing a child and trying to decide to try for another baby right there in print. It makes you realize you're not going crazy, that those thoughts and feelings are legitimate, and that you are not alone. I carried this book everywhere with me and would highlight phrases that were personal to me. It really helped me understand the loss of our son and give me strength and courage to go on with our lives by giving him a little brother/sister while still keeping his memory alive. We have since given birth to his baby sister who was born happy, healthy, kicking, and screaming a couple weeks ago! Being pregnant after losing a child is very difficult. Constant fear, guilt, and a lot of times you're still grieving very hard for the baby you lost. We got pregnant just 2 months after losing Wyatt and while we planned it that way and I wouldn't change it for the world, it was hard to still be grieving so hard for Wyatt and be able to enjoy the pregnancy with our new daughter. I'm so sorry to those of you having to look at this book, but I hope it can help you as much as it has helped me."
~ Written on 2007-11-24
~ Written on 2007-11-24
"I am so sorry if you are reading this review. You are either walking in my same shoes or know someone who is.
After the loss of our first son at 36 weeks (because of a blood clot in his umbilical cord). I started reading this book about a month after his death. We wanted to try to have another baby, but needed to deal with grief, fear and everything else that comes with the loss of a child. I was able to get pregnant 8 weeks after his death. This book helped my husband and I cope with the next pregnancy and actually have hope that our next child would make it here alive. The book is detailed, comforting, hopeful and reminds you that your feelings are totally normal. It addresses fear, jealousy, dealing with others who don't know how to handle you and your subsequent pregnancy. It also addresses what it's like to actually have another child. Once you are home with a live baby you go through a whole new set of emotions. I bought this book for family and friends so they could try to understand what we were going through.
I am so pleased to say that 8 months of reading this book...we had a beautiful baby girl. The book really helped me through a very high risk and scary pregnancy. I still refer to it when I am having a bad day missing my little boy so much, but loving my little girl so much.
Good luck to you in starting the journey of a subsequent pregnancy after a devastating loss."
~ Written on 2007-09-29
After the loss of our first son at 36 weeks (because of a blood clot in his umbilical cord). I started reading this book about a month after his death. We wanted to try to have another baby, but needed to deal with grief, fear and everything else that comes with the loss of a child. I was able to get pregnant 8 weeks after his death. This book helped my husband and I cope with the next pregnancy and actually have hope that our next child would make it here alive. The book is detailed, comforting, hopeful and reminds you that your feelings are totally normal. It addresses fear, jealousy, dealing with others who don't know how to handle you and your subsequent pregnancy. It also addresses what it's like to actually have another child. Once you are home with a live baby you go through a whole new set of emotions. I bought this book for family and friends so they could try to understand what we were going through.
I am so pleased to say that 8 months of reading this book...we had a beautiful baby girl. The book really helped me through a very high risk and scary pregnancy. I still refer to it when I am having a bad day missing my little boy so much, but loving my little girl so much.
Good luck to you in starting the journey of a subsequent pregnancy after a devastating loss."
~ Written on 2007-09-29
"There are no words to describe the loss of a child. But when I read this book shortly after my first son was stillborn, I felt as though 'someone' understood. I was alone, hurting, unable to function...and there was this book...and she understood me! It gave me hope when I thought all hope was gone. Then I became pregnant again, and it guided me through, once again. As I had read and reread the pages. When I lost my second son, I felt even more alone than I had in the begining. Reading the parts of the book on grief and reading the section on Husband's to my own husband, I felt hope again. And I pray that I will be able to read it once again.
I recommend this book to everyone who goes through a loss. I will admit though, as some of the others said, this book is more geared to women who have had later losses. There are some chapters and situations that might not apply to someone with an early loss. Even though emotionally everything is exactly the same.
But for me, after suffering 2 early miscarriages and two late second trimester losses...it was a lifesaver!! And I will continue to recommend it to others."
~ Written on 2007-09-04
I recommend this book to everyone who goes through a loss. I will admit though, as some of the others said, this book is more geared to women who have had later losses. There are some chapters and situations that might not apply to someone with an early loss. Even though emotionally everything is exactly the same.
But for me, after suffering 2 early miscarriages and two late second trimester losses...it was a lifesaver!! And I will continue to recommend it to others."
~ Written on 2007-09-04