Death Benefits: How Losing a Parent Can Change an Adult's Life--For the Better
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By: Jeanne Safer
Format: Hardcover
From: Basic Books
Pub. Date: March 2008
From: Basic Books
Pub. Date: March 2008
Product Details:
Catalog: Book
Release Date: 2008-04-28
Media: Hardcover
Number Of Pages: 240
Ean: 9780465072118
Isbn: 0465072119
Catalog: Book
Release Date: 2008-04-28
Media: Hardcover
Number Of Pages: 240
Ean: 9780465072118
Isbn: 0465072119
ABOUT THE BOOK
EDITORIAL REVIEW
Although five percent of the population loses a mother or father...few of us are psychologically prepared for the experience in later life. Death Benefits explores the uncharted territory each of us enters when a parent leaves us, and offers a blueprint for positive change in every aspect of our lives. Death Benefits demonstrates through powerful stories (including the author’s own revelatory experience) how parent loss is the most potent catalyst for change in middle age and can actually offer us our last, best chance to become our truest, deepest selves. Safer challenges the conventional wisdom that fundamental change is only for the young; and that loss must simply be endured or overcome. Filled with moving and engaging stories of real men and women re-imagining themselves after a parent’s death, it is a fresh, impassioned, and sophisticated look at self-transformation in later life.
USER REVIEWS
"This book does have some startling things to say, in the direction of getting us to think in new ways about the impact of the death of one's parents. I think most people could benefit from reading it."
~ Written on 2008-07-24
~ Written on 2008-07-24
"Dear Joy,
Here is an edited version of your letter that I'd be grateful for permission to include on my website. Please change anything you wish, and get back to me. I wish you the very best in your exploration.
Jeanne Safer
Like your mom, mine was a powerful and painful part of my life. I adored her and was terrified of her rejection and abandonment, and desperately needed her approval and love. I have to admit that even thinking about trying to process my feelings about her brings up fear of hurting her in the spirit world, which it totally nuts! But I am willing to excavate the mine of emotions in order to finally let her go--both for my benefit and hers. I did not know this until I read your book. It touches on issues that I was not even aware of because I dissociated them. I know my work as an artist will become much more powerful through this inner work. I am also planning to show the book to my therapist and use it in my therapy. A lot of women who have issues with their dead mothers will benefit. All this because of your taking the risk to write your story.
Meredith C, Milwaukee, Wisconsin
This is a letter that I wrote after reading Death Benefits. The book has openned my mind to a new way of viewing my relationship with my mother and has helped me to use the process to begin healing. I am so blessed to have found her book and heard her story.I also formed an online group in order to help others and welcome new members.
Joy C.Hellman
N.C.
Healing Through the Death of a Parent MSN"
~ Written on 2008-06-09
Here is an edited version of your letter that I'd be grateful for permission to include on my website. Please change anything you wish, and get back to me. I wish you the very best in your exploration.
Jeanne Safer
Like your mom, mine was a powerful and painful part of my life. I adored her and was terrified of her rejection and abandonment, and desperately needed her approval and love. I have to admit that even thinking about trying to process my feelings about her brings up fear of hurting her in the spirit world, which it totally nuts! But I am willing to excavate the mine of emotions in order to finally let her go--both for my benefit and hers. I did not know this until I read your book. It touches on issues that I was not even aware of because I dissociated them. I know my work as an artist will become much more powerful through this inner work. I am also planning to show the book to my therapist and use it in my therapy. A lot of women who have issues with their dead mothers will benefit. All this because of your taking the risk to write your story.
Meredith C, Milwaukee, Wisconsin
This is a letter that I wrote after reading Death Benefits. The book has openned my mind to a new way of viewing my relationship with my mother and has helped me to use the process to begin healing. I am so blessed to have found her book and heard her story.I also formed an online group in order to help others and welcome new members.
Joy C.Hellman
N.C.
Healing Through the Death of a Parent MSN"
~ Written on 2008-06-09
"This was a great book for my needs having just lost my two parents in a short time. I am hopeful and
looking forward to the future."
~ Written on 2008-06-09
looking forward to the future."
~ Written on 2008-06-09
"My mom passed away 3 months ago. This book came out just in time. Death benefits are real and the harvest has begun!"
~ Written on 2008-06-08
~ Written on 2008-06-08
"This book really touched my heart and after discussion with friends about it, I learned that so many shared the sentiments of the author but did not have the courage to talk about it because it would appear they don't love their parents or wish them dead. The author makes very important and courageous points regarding emotions and how a new phase in life really starts once our parents have moved on. It is valid, emotional and so very true. I felt a lightness and freedom after reading it and feel more comfortable sharing this info with my friends. I am not happy that my parents are deceased but I am truly joyous about the new life I discovered after I stopped having to structure my life around their care and well being. It is was a freeing and liberating feeling to focus on my own needs and the needs of my children, when in the past, parents needs were so demanding and time intensive, I was always living feeling guilty about not serving them enough or guilty about not being able to focus on kids. It was simply too much for an only child. I am thankful for this book ~ It is a treasure "
~ Written on 2008-05-05
~ Written on 2008-05-05