I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression

"Literate to a high degree, insightful, helpful, and even revelatory, Terry Real's book, "I Don't Want to Talk About It" explores, with heoric assiduousness, the causes, manifestations, ramifications, implications, and possible releases from the contemporary problems included by the term "depression". One of the books triumphs is its accessibility, another its fertiltiy. I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression"
~ Written on 2008-06-14

"This book is an awesome book. It's got a lot of interesting cases in it as well as the scientific reasonings. I'm not a big reader, but this book really got me hooked."
~ Written on 2008-05-20

"I've read this book over and over. It's insightful and brave. Some of the less enthusiastic reviewers are missing the point. You can be happy indeed if the traumas described here don't explain your or your loved ones' depression. There are plenty of people who WILL be helped by this book, even if you aren't."
~ Written on 2008-01-13

"I honestly don't understand the many rave reviews! The title is misleading in that it does NOT help you to overcome depression. I do not recall any content that guides the reader through this disorder.

By the way, this is my first review and I'm not even the target male audience. However, my opinion mirrors that of my fiance for whom this book was intended. Usually we end up liking the library book so much we end up buying. Not the case for this book!

We both feel that this is more of an autobiography of his work with depressed patients. As another reviewer pointed out, it is basically a collection of stories. Even if the reader has the Exact childhood history/trauma and adult frustrations as one of his patients, I don't see any possible way for him to be helped with this book.

Most of the stories vaguely allude to the therapy sessions with the doctor but he never told us how he managed to help each of them. Organization wise, it's more of a novel and is a disappointment for someone who is looking for clear distinct chapters/categories.

One star because there are a few things we can take away from this book. For instance, the doctor made some social observations about depression which helps the reader understand how some male depression came about. Some of the stories might help parents to become more sensitive towards their children so that they won't grow up with self-esteem or any other issues. "
~ Written on 2007-12-20

"I spent tens of thousands of my insurance company's money on expensive "rehabilitation" sleepaway camp - one of the best in fact! All I needed was this book, and good counselors at home who understand Covert Male Depression.

I was "high functioning" - just pursuing that which I "was trained" by society and by my parents equals being a "man" - money, success, cars, houses, etc - I wasn't trained to do that which I simply wanted to do.

This book enlightened me to my "Real" malady - covert male depression. I know now I was "set up" and Real's book helped me look within to find the courage to be a Relational Hero.

Man it hurts...."
~ Written on 2007-10-30