Getting Ready for Marriage Workbook : How to Really Get to Know the Person You're Going to Marry

"brings up some good questions. Your man will hate this book but you just have to ask sometimes lol. Good book. "
~ Written on 2008-08-15

"Unfortunately during dating couples often put on their best face (their social personality) and it's difficult to really get to know the person they are dating (both their social and the domestic personality). If you, as well as the person that you have been dating for a significant period of time (the longer the better) are strong Christians and are considering marriage, this book will help you to really get to know your potential future spouse before making the final decision. It's a good supplement to professional pre-marital counseling. This book is the text for the marriage course of Teen U. "
~ Written on 2008-07-14

"I suppose the book would had been better for me and mine if we were still 20. Very basic not bad but more for the younger couples. "
~ Written on 2008-07-02

"We decided to get this book since we are not going through traditional pre-marriage counseling. It can be a little cheesy, but it definitely sparks great conversation and helps to really understand why you act the way you do in relationships."
~ Written on 2008-02-15

"For the last four years I've used the Getting Ready for Marriage Workbook for pre-engagement and pre-marriage pastoral counseling and have been totally pleased. Virtually every important area which a couple will encounter during their marriage is covered. When used faithfully, the book will bring out potential areas of conflict and help clarify expectations concerning what married life with their partner will be like. The material is presented from a Christian perspective. While this may be a turn-off, as one reviewer commented, it is important that faith issues in general be a component of every pre-marriage discussion, as faith or lack of faith truly enters into a person's worldview and the manner in which family decisions are made. E.g., should I believe you will be faithful to me in our marriage relationship because I trust you and your word as an individual or because I believe you will be faithful to me because I believe your committment to God? In my view, even non-Christians will profit greatly from the materials covered in this book and need not take offense when matters of faith are addressed. My favorite feature of the workbook is the inclusion of covenants which the couple agree to (or determine to leave unagreed upon, at their peril in my opinion). E.g., the "Conflict Resolution Covenant," wherein the couple agrees to certain expectations, responsibilities, and ways of handling differences so as to minimize misunderstandings and deal with the inevitable conflicts constructively. My experience is that the covenants are very useful reminders and tools for promoting harmonius relations well after the marriage vows are taken. In my pastoral counseling I have found that the Getting Ready for Marriage Workbook can be covered thoroughly in five or six sessions with the couple completing a two-chapter assignment prior to each session. The sessions themselves become very productive as the couple will have already addressed the material covered and will arrive with issues that need additional attention, discussion, and insight. A separate workbook for each person is recommended but it is possible for the couple to share a book."
~ Written on 2007-05-30